Elbow to Elbow
Handshakes used to be considered a very important part of introductions and business relationships. Years ago, I met a salesperson who told me his company had a customer relations training program that included teaching men how to properly shake hands with women. I was impressed to hear this, having had my hand squeezed to the point of wincing far too many times.
He told me the main takeaway from the lesson was to let the woman determine the amount of ‘squeeze’ and the man was to match her strength. And definitely do not pump her arm. Lastly make eye contact. (I can tell you, nothing used to bother me more than a person shaking my hand while looking around at others in the room. Yes, it happens.)
The handshake has been analyzed and empowered with all kinds of meaning. I beg to differ. I’ve always felt that the modern purpose of a handshake is to acknowledge the other person. It’s not about proving how assertive you are.
In these pandemic days, I’ve noticed there are now awkward moments in social situations where formerly there would have been a handshake. Or worse, there are awkward elbow bumps accompanied with eye rolling and lame pandemic jokes.
I suggest we develop protocol for the elbow tap and begin to normalize it as an option when greeting someone.
Humbly, I submit we continue with right arm to right arm in keeping with the tradition of the handshake. Look over your elbow to make eye contact with the other person and give it a moment and perhaps a nod to acknowledge the ceremony. Make the same comments you would normally make with a handshake.
Adding protocol and a little bit of seriousness to the gesture could go a long way toward replacing the zealous determination offered in a firm grip. Maybe in the future handshakes will return, but for now, I suggest we brush up our elbow game.
Eye contact in combination with physical touch will seal the deal, cement the relationship, place the bet, formalize the introduction. No need to make anyone wince.
Stay safe everyone.
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