Two years ago I wrote about a young man who struggled to find his footing after starting grade nine at a new high school where he knew no one. This past Friday night I went to see him shine as The Grinch in his high school play.

In the early weeks and months of high school, he begged every day to stay home alone in his room with his screens and games. The adults in his life knew he would be okay once he got settled, but at the time, there was no convincing him. It was an ongoing battle.

Since then, my young friend has transformed from being lost and anxious to… being the star of the play. It seemed so simple; step one, find the other gamers. Open your mouth and say something. I know it’s always easier said than done, but literally, that was how he discovered other kids with the same interests. His social circle grew from there. Who knew he was interested in theatre?

Wonderful things happen when we find our tribes. Loosely defined as a group of people who resonate with the same values and interests, a tribe satisfies the fundamental need to feel we belong. The adults in the village of this kid’s life are proud of him, and also touched. He was wonderful on the stage as The Grinch, but he was most impressive after the show when he stayed in character, offering a grinchy greeting to all the children who who wanted a selfie with him in his mountain lair. That takes confidence–to play a part, to ad lib and improv, and still nod and wink at the parents. It doesn’t matter if you’re a kid in grade nine, or a retired adult. Tribes are important; personal growth happens when you’re given the chance to expand on natural talents within a safe social setting.

Take time to enjoy this time of year however you choose to celebrate. I will return January 4, 2025. Cheers one and all!

Keep your joy.

Anne Milne is an every Sunday blogger, unless it’s a holiday weekend. Or summertime. Facebook or sign up for delivery to your email.